November 15, 2015

I Say I Want a Revolution

non judgement, revolution, happiness I want to start a revolution. A non judgement revolution where people are free to define and live their own happiness.

North America is an extremely judgemental place to live. Who wore it better? Who has the best house? Who gained weight? Who looks younger? Who has the best job/partner/life? As a society we are consistently judging other people on how they live their lives. I am asking for your help, we have to make this stop.

Many of Hollywood’s top actresses have chosen not to have children and they fight a continuous battle of defending their choice. Oprah, Ellen, Jennifer Aniston, Cameron Diaz, Kim Cattrall to name just a few. These are talented, driven women who have remained successful in an increasingly competitive and fickle industry. They have won awards, travelled the world, created empires, volunteered and donated millions of dollars yet continue to be asked if they feel incomplete for not having children. Why must they have children to be considered whole? It’s because it’s part of the recipe.

The recipethe North American ideal for success:

-go to post secondary

-get a ‘good’ job

-get married

-buy a house

-have children

-work hard

-retire

There you have it folks. Follow these simple steps and you too are guaranteed a life of happiness. While I do believe that this can be happiness for some, it is impossible to believe it is for EVERYONE. That is like saying there is only one recipe for dessert – vanilla cake. If you want dessert you must follow this recipe. That’s boring. People’s passions, dreams and interests are far to varied to be expected to fit into a one size fits all mold of happiness. Many are realizing this and are making their own adjustments to the recipe. The problem is when they deviate from the original they are judged by society.

A women in her mid thirties who did not go to post secondary, works as a server. She has been in the service industry for 15 years and is incredibly good at what she does. She has bought her own car, her own house and has an impressive financial portfolio. Despite all this people ask her when she is going to get a ‘real job.’ She loves her job, why is it not considered real?

Another women has her masters degree and a very successful career. She is exceedingly motivated and holds a position of someone at least ten years her senior. She owns her own house, her own luxury vehicle, and her own membership to a country club. She likes to travel for 2-20 weeks at a time. She is asked when she will ‘grow up’ and settle down and stop with the travelling. Why must she stop when it’s her greatest passion?

Another example, a twenty something, very successful young man works an incredibly challenging and thankless job with children and youth. He works hard and has forged ahead in his career with a rare combination of heart and determination. His job requires a level of giving that not many possess. He is scrutinized when he says he does not want to have children. He is called selfish and childish and told that he will change his mind someday. How is that fair?

A mother of two incredible girls, volunteers at her church, is extremely involved in her community and her children’s school as well as taking care of her house and large property. She is looked down upon when she answers stay at home home Mom to the question ‘what do you do?’ From six in the morning until ten at night she is working, investing everything she has into the future of her family. Sadly she is made to feel inferior to women with careers.

I am sure you have judged and have been judged. Neither one makes you feel good.

I am guilty of judgement. I used to question why anyone would get tired down to a 25 year mortgage, a life of debt for for some brinks and mortar? Why are they ruining their lives getting married so young? Why do you work so much? Why don’t you travel more? Judge. Judge. Judge. Judge. I finally realized that people do not want to live my life any more then I want to live theirs.

One way is not better than the other. That’s the thing about life, as long as you are happy living it, it’s the right choice. We have to respect and appreciate the diversity of life without judgement. Everyone has their own path to forge and while you do not have understand or even like another’s path you do not have the right to condemn it for not being like the one you choose.

We need to stop trying to compartmentalize life. No one should ever have to hear “Why don’t you….

get married

have kids

get a ‘real’ job,

travel more/less?”

Happiness is subjective and is unique as our fingerprint. Embrace the diversity.

Will you join me on the revolution or are you going to eat vanilla cake forever?

“WHEN YOU JUDGE ANOTHER, YOU DO NOT DEFINE THEM, YOU DEFINE YOURSELF.” ~ Dr. Wayne Dyer

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Every day thousands of women are being deceived by the men that they are dating. From lying about being married, to where he is from, to his profession, the lie is delivered with such conviction it’s almost impossible to detect. Many men are able to continue the lie for months and even many years. Leaving the women with not only gut-wrenching heart break, but also feeling foolish for falling for the deceit at all. Detecting a lie is incredibly difficult and has been studied by psychologists and criminologist for years. Unfortunately, there is no simple formula to uncovering those telling the truth to those spinning a web of lies. There are, however, a few red flags that us dating ladies should be aware of. The following are nine signs that you may be the victim of romantic deception. Read More…

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Broken heart, dating, single life, on line dating, trust, heart broken, Baggage, Start Small, Let it Go, Support, Female support, Undolus, Take Time, Trust Yourself, You know the feeling. It’s like someone drove a Mac truck into your stomach and parked it there. Your head is spinning and it’s nearly impossible to focus. Nothing in your world makes sense and you would like nothing more than to build a cocoon around yourself and shut out the world. It’s the pain of a broken heart. At one time or another, we have all felt it. Once the agony subsides and you can see clearly again you are left facing one very important question. How do I trust again after having my heart broken? Read More… 

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Santorini (Thira):

The beauty of this island can only be matched by the charm of it’s people. I recommend staying in Oia (pronounced Ee-ah) it’s less crowed than Fira (the main city) and has the most beautiful sunsets in the world.

The public buses are a great way to get around the island and only cost 1.50 euro. You really don’t have to do anything on this island except sit on a balcony and experience the awe-inspiring view. If you do want to venture out, here are a few other things I suggest: Go to Kamari, the black beach, and collect real pumice stone from the shore. Snorkel, almost anywhere off the island. Go sailing, either with a tour or rent a boat yourself. Go on a wine tour; Santo wines is the one I suggest as it has the most breathtaking view of the caldera on the island. Sipping wine while enjoying that view almost guarantees that you will never want to leave. www.santowines.gr

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Europe, Mediterranean, Greece, travel, acropolis, Athens, Santorini, Oia, Fira, greek islands, greek food, Plaka, Dalphini hotel, Karmari beach, black beach, Ydria, cecil, museum, acropolis museum, Kandori Restaurant, wine, santowines, Thira, travel, travel Greece, Things to do in Greece, tips for GreeceTW Suggests eating at: The bakery across the white marble street from Delfini. They bake fresh treats daily, a perfect way to start your day.  Also across the white marble street and to the left is a cafe with amazing lattes and the most decedent chocolate lava cake you can imagine. For a nice dinner out, try Kandouni Restaurant and Bar www.kandouni.com

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Athens:

You really don’t need to spend more than 2-3 days in Athens, unless you are a history buff in which case you could spend weeks. No matter what, you have to see the Acropolis. Standing amongst this ancient fortress while staring out at the modern city of Athens, you feel as if you are caught between two times. Not being huge on museums, I do highly recommend that you visit the Acropolis Museum after visiting the Acropolis. It will put everything you have just seen into context and also has a stunning view of the fortress. www.theacropolismuseum.gr . The Plaka is the oldest area in Athens and is mostly open only to pedestrian traffic. It is a good place to find souvenirs, restaurants and cafes.

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TW Suggests eating at: If you are looking for traditional Greek food at a great price, The Hani in the Plaka serves huge portions of fresh cooked food. Also in the Plaka, Ydria cafe-restaurant has a good menu and a beautiful courtyard patio, great for a mid afternoon latte. www.ydria.gr

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Food you should try in Greece: Real Greek salad~ fresh tomatoes, cucumbers, onions, olives and feta cheese ~ so fresh. Saganaki cheese (fried cheese), moussakas (sautéed eggplant, tomato and minced meat), yoghurt with honey (Greece promotes the best honey in the world), Baklava (a dessert made from layers of filo pastry filled with nuts and sweetened with honey, Ouzo (liqueur with a black liquorish taste).

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IGNORANCE IS NOT AN EXCUSE! KNOW THE TIPPING CUSTOMS OF A COUNTRY YOU ARE VISITING.

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I had to focus on breathing. I could hear what my roommate was saying but the words were fading into the background as the drum beat of my heart grew louder. The whole world around me began to slow down as my brain raced to process the information I had just been given. It was as though I was standing in the middle of a boxing ring, unable to move my hands to protect myself from the painful blows. This couldn’t really be happening. How could the man I was falling in love with be married? I was devastated. Total knock out. Read More…

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June 23, 2016

Top Ten Toronto

The Traveling Waitress’ Top 10 Toronto (Summer Time)

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Toronto Blue Jays, Distillery District, Panorama Lounge, Toronto Island, Canada. Ontario, travel, tope ten, Toronto, Steam Whistle, St. Lawrence Market, Younge and Dundas, Queen Street, CN Tower, Edge Walk, The CN Tower Edge Walk ~ There is no better way to see the city of Toronto then a 360 degree tour 1,168 feet up! On a clear day you can see all the way to Niagara Falls. It’s an amazing and an experience you will never forget. 

Steam Whistle Brewery Tour ~ After the edge walk you will need a drink!  Steam Whistle is just steps away from the CN Tower. I love my beer and try to do a brewery tour in every city I visit. Stream Whistle is BY FAR my favourite. Not only to they have an amazing tasting Pilsner, the tour guides are fun, down to earth and great story tellers. They make the experience interactive and tons of fun. And unlike most breweries they do not make you wait to the end of the tour to give you a beer. Steam Whistle also supports local musicians and artists and is environmental friendly company. If that isn’t enough the beer tastes AWESOME. 

St. Lawrence Market ~ Hundreds of different vendors with any flavor your tested buds could imagine. National Geographic named the St. Lawrence Market the #1 food market in the world. Nuff said. Plus it’s a nice walk there from Union Station down Front Street. 

The Distillery District ~ The oldest part of the city, this Victorian era pedestrian only village is home to artsy boutiques, great restaurants and local designers shops and studios. Once the old whisky distillery, this charming area of the city now houses one of Canada’s best beers, Mill St. You can take a tour of of the Brewery or just enjoy a delicious beer and food pairing at the restaurant. 

Toronto Island ~ Take the ferry to Toronto Island, you can rent kayaks or bikes and explore the island, grab a picnic or a game of mini golf. I recommend being over there once the sun sets to get an amazing skyline view on Toronto as the sun goes down and the lights come up. 

Panorama Lounge ~ Speaking of great views of the city. Right at the corner of Bloor and Bay street is the Manulife Centre. Go inside, it looks like a shopping mall at first but trust me and keep walking to the back, take the escalator and you will see a sign for Panorama Lounge. Then take the elevator to the 51st floor. Cocktails are expensive but it is worth it to have one while over looking the city at night.

Queen Street ~ This is an awesome street to walk down and explore. It has everything from funky one off shops and boutiques to well know stores. You can find some great souvenirs here. I highly recommend stopping at Poutini’s house of Poutin for a culinary Canadian classic (fries topped with cheese curds and hot gravy) They even have a Vegan version!!! http://www.poutini.com/              The Legendary Horseshoe Tavern is also on this street where some musicians you may have heard of; Willie Nelson, Police, The Ramones, Blue Rodeo, The Tragically Hip, MatchBox 20, The Strokes, Billy Talent, The Trews, Bryan adams and The Rolling Stones have played. Catch a local Toronto band and discover why we have such a great reputation of indie bands. www.horseshoetavern.com

Toronto Blue Jays Baseball Game ~ Located right downtown at the Rogers Centre (locals still call it Skydome). If it is a nice day the dome is open allowing the chant “Let’s Go Blue Jays” to be heard under the beaming sun, tickets start at only $10. After the game walk down the street in any direction to visit a hotdog vendor for a taste of the world’s best street meat (in my humble opinion). You can also take tours of Rogers centre and walk right onto the baseball diamond. Tour tickets are just $12 and the tours run every hour from 11:00am – 4:00pm. toronto.bluejays.mlb.comToronto Blue Jays, Distillery District, Panorama Lounge, Toronto Island, Canada. Ontario, travel, tope ten, Toronto, Steam Whistle, St. Lawrence Market, Younge and Dundas, Queen Street, CN Tower, Edge Walk,

Younge and Dundas Square ~ Toronto’s (smaller) version of Time Square. Bright lights, billboards and bustling people make it so you are never boarded here. Free concerts and performance art is often taking place and if it is a really hot day you can run through the street level water fountains to cool off. www.ydsquare.ca

Take a World Tour ~ Toronto is an incredibly multi cultural city. With over Over 140 languages and dialects spoken here, and just over 30 per cent of Toronto residents speaking a language other than English or French at home, it is no surprise that there are pockets of the city that hold their own mini country within them. Don’t worry they all accept the loonie!

~ Little Italy ~ along college street between Bathurst St and Ossington Ave

~ China Town ~ Spadina Ave. (Queen To College) and Dundas St. (East and West of Spadina)

~ Greektown ~ All along Danforth Ave from Jones Ave to Hampton Ave

~ Little Poland ~ Roncesvalles Village, Roncesvalles Ave from Queen Street To Bloor

~ Little India ~ Little India, also known as the Gerrard India Bazaar, a half dozen blocks on Gerrard Street East

~ Little Portugal ~ Along Dundas Street West from Shawn Street to Rusholme Road

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Trekking in the trees

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Getting out there and exploring the beauty of this awesome planet is something we all enjoy doing – but we all tent to get stuck in our habits. It’s easy to fixate on just one activity that you really enjoy doing – whether that’s hiking, running or camping, snorkelling, jazercising. It happens all the time, we buy gear with a single pursuit in mind and tend to forget about any adventures outside of our peripheral vision.

If you’re looking to get out there and try something unconventional and different,  to switch it up and have amazing new experiences, any of these are an awesome choice for mixing it up this summer. Read More…

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Exploring Caves and Caverns near Toronto

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Put the passports away. There is no need to travel far to experience amazing Live Out There adventures this summer. These are 5 epic experiences within two hours of downtown Toronto.  Caving, Horseback Riding, Stand Up Paddle Boarding, Cycling and Kite Boarding.  If you want to get out there this summer without breaking the bank or fighting the cottager traffic, from the epic adventurous to family friendly fun, we have got you covered. Read more…

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Epic Adventures for Couples in Gros Morne National Park

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After hiking the Tablelands together you will feel like you can take on the world.

Standing on top of the bottom of the earth, unable to speak or move, I let the beauty of the place surround me. All of the pain and fatigue from the last few hours faded away in a fog that the cool air took down to sea. I looked over and smiled at the only other person I could see for miles…Read more

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An AMAZING Guest port by an inspiring woman,  Ashley Shaw.

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Erin Bender from Travel with Bender. I was star struck but she was even cooler in person.

Last week I got back from my first ever Women In Travel Summit (WITS) in Irvine, California. A three day conference for women in the travel writing industry. I was blown away! I have been to conferences before but they were nothing like this.

These are the five gifts that everyone who attends WITS leaves with.

Information ~ The amount of incredible, insightful useful information at you will receive at WITS is almost overwhelming. From the seminars, to the one on one sessions, to talking with other bloggers and influencers you will walk away with resources and insights you need to take your blog and brand to the next level of success.

Connections ~ The connections you make a WITS are vast, varied and very important. You will meet brands that want to partner with you, fellow bloggers that want to guest post with you, women who have been where you are and can share their insight on how to become more successful. New friends to travel with and new products to make your travel life easier. A fellow blogger that I met and I have already planned a trip together in May.

Relationships ~ There is an indescribable feeling of meeting someone who shares the same intensity for something as you do. Being at a conference with 500 women who have a passion for travel, a love for writing and a lust for life, you develop an instant bond with each of them. I booked two one on one sessions. One was with Gabi Logan who helped shape my three year business plan that looks amazing. The other was with Alexandra Jimenez. Alex suggested a career turn that I never would have thought of, but that is so perfect and I couldn’t be more excited about. I am beyond grateful of the opportunity to meet and speak with both of these awesome women.

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Empowerment ~ Being in an environment where people are constantly telling you how amazing you can be and offering whatever they can do to help you get there, is incredibly powerful. When you decide to embark on a career as a travel writer or a life of travel, people tend to question your choices. Being surround by hundreds of others who have also made that choice, you can’t help but feel uplifted. I was so up lifted leaving WITS I felt I didn’t even need the plane to fly home. This feeling is invaluable, especially if you have been questioning weather you made the right career choice. Fuled with this new empowerment once back at home you are ready to take your career to the next step of success.

Experiences ~ WITS is always held in a super cool place. (Next year is Milwaukee and I am crazy excited). This year it was Irvine in Orange County California. I got the opportunity to explore the countless beautiful beaches and funky beach towns in the area. Irvine also hosted an awesome opening night party with great food, drinks and prizes. With Stray Boots we were put into teams and sent on a scavenge hunt all around Huntington Beach. Something I never would have typically signed up to do, but where I had an amazing time with some awesome women. I also pushed myself to network. I hate going up to a stranger and starting a conversation, but what I leaned from one of the speakers Nicolle Merrill was that most other people hate it too. What better place to practice your networking skills then at an event where hundreds of other people are practising theirs too? After a weekend at WITS I had the confidence to network like a pro.

The four days at WITS literally changed my life. I have a new career goal, new tools to accomplish success, new confidence and new friends. A HUGE thank you to Beth Santos, the creator of WITS and founder and CEO of Wanderful. As well as all of the amazing ladies who made this experience so awesome.

So will I be seeing you in Milwaukee next year?

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